“For me, home is simply about shelter, in all manners of speaking. It is a place of rest and refuge, a place where I can play, relax, unwind, or create—home is the place that replenishes my soul.”-Pia Jane Bijkerk
It has been said that it is never about how big the house is, but rather how happy the home is.
However, much like how we affect our environment, our surroundings tend to have an influence on us and our emotions as well. In fact, it has been shown that more often than not, the level of satisfaction and happiness we glean from our lives would often start in our very own homes.
In this regard, we ought to come up with ways to make our lives at home not only tolerable but one that would actually make us happier. Our homes are our sanctuaries—a haven if you may—insomuch that it should be that one definitive place where we look forward to ending our day with. After all, peace and serenity start at home. However, how does one engender an atmosphere of tranquility at home? How can you cultivate an ambiance of amity? Well, this endeavor should start with you. There are a few things you can do in order to improve the level of happiness in your home. Happy homes can come in all shapes and sizes and would run the gamut from an empire east condo to a unit in Covent Garden Sta. Mesa and everything in between. If you wish to create a home that you look forward to coming back to instead of staying away from, here are some of the things you can do:
Make your five senses happy
If you want to be truly happy, you need to start with your five senses namely: sight, smell, sound and taste (albeit, this last one you can least prioritize). Making your five senses happy can start by eliminating all the foul and dank odors of your home and replacing them with ones you feel yourself gravitating to. Fresh and pleasant scents such as lavender oils can significantly improve your feelings of wellness. Similarly, the aroma of familiar home cooked meals would be enough to bring warmth and comfort to us. In the same vein, try to minimize loud noises and make sure that there is a nice sound level where people can speak to each other in a moderate tone without having to yell. Lastly, clean and spruce up your surroundings. You cannot be happy in your own home if you are amidst the clutter.
Color affects your mood
Although frequently overlooked, the colors of your home tend to influence your mood and feelings. In this regard, you should ensure that the colors you utilize at home would represent the mood you wish to have. Try to use one to two warm colors for every ten colors you utilize in order to have a happy balance between cool and warm colors. To ensure that you do not commit mistakes, cool colors are closer to blue and green while warm colors are closer to red. Alternatively, if this is a little confusing to you, you can opt for neutral colors. White is an excellent color to start with as not only will this give you a wide leverage on designing a particular room, but because it can have all the colors in it too. However, remember to give white rooms color accents as having way too much white going on in one area can be rather overwhelming.
Use the power of touch
Give your partner a daily hug and kiss before they go, be intimate and try to be more affectionate with your children where you spend your free time playing with them. Show your affection and love in various ways such as in your cooking or by opting to watch a movie together on weekends. Let your home be filled with love and joy. Remember, love is more powerful when shared than simply had, so spread good vibes and consequently, happiness in your own home.
Use positive words every day and manage your expectations
An excellent way to be happy in your homes is to start your day right. Begin the day with writing down or mentally picturing out the three things you are grateful for. Put that on paper and then place it somewhere you and your family can constantly see. Routinely doing this day by day will put your line of thoughts into a positive gear. Consequently, you are training your brain to be happier and grateful as well. However, on days wherein you seem to fall short on the things you expect, remember to scale back on your expectations and make them realistic. Furthermore, make sure that they are realistic. Know what you want, but at the same time be tolerant and compassionate in the house if some of your expectations are not met. Teach your family to do the same.